Maybe you’ve gotten really good at knowing which subjects not to bring up. You don't mention what happened last weekend because you don't want another fight. You decide not to tell your partner how lonely you’ve been feeling because you already know what they’ll say. You swallow the question you really want to ask. You think, "I don't want to start a fight." And maybe your partner is doing the same thing. From the outside, things may even look calmer. You're not arguing as mu